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5 Steps to Overcoming Your Limiting Beliefs

Vernon L Williams — Thu, 29 Jul 2021 17:30:58 +0000

Beliefs are the lens through which we see ourselves, other people and life in general.

Our beliefs determine what our lives look like. As Tony Robbins said, “What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is rarely a function of our true capability. It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are.”

In order to achieve your goals, you must overcome your limiting beliefs that are preventing you from doing so.

These 5 steps will help you overcome your limiting beliefs:

1. Identify an area of your life in which you are not getting the results you would like.

Examples: Work, Health, Financial, Relationship

2. Identify a limiting belief that is hindering your success.

Examples:

“I am not important.”

“I don’t deserve more than I have.”

“There is no point in dreaming big. It only leads to disappointment.”

“I am powerless.”

“I can’t earn a living doing what I love.”

“I don’t have time to pursue my goals.”

“I am too old.”

“I can’t change, this is just the way I am.”

“I don’t know what God wants me to do.”

“I don’t know where to start.”

“I am afraid of trying and failing.”

3. Challenge the belief.

a. Ask: “What pain has this belief caused me in the past?”

Examples: Frustration, stress, lack of fulfillment.

b. Ask: “What pain will this belief cause me in the future?”

Examples: Frustration, stress, lack of fulfilment.

c. Ask: “What pleasure would I experience if I replaced this limiting belief with an empowering one?”

Examples: Peace, satisfaction, fulfillment.

4. Replace the limiting belief with an empowering belief.

Examples:

Limiting Belief: I am not important.

Empowering Belief: God knows the number of hairs on my head.

Supporting Bible Verse: And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows.(Luke 12:7)

Limiting Belief: I don’t deserve more than I have.

Empowering Belief: I am the apple of God’s eye.

Supporting Bible Verse: Keep me as the apple of your eye; hide me in the shadow of your wings, (Psalm 17:8)

Limiting Belief: There is no point in dreaming big. It only leads to disappointment.

Empowering Belief: I am the head and not the tail. I am the top and not the bottom.

Supporting Bible Verse: And the Lord will make you the head and not the tail, and you shall only go up and not down, if you obey the commandments of the Lord your God, which I command you today, being careful to do them, (Deuteronomy 28:13)

Limiting Belief: I am powerless.

Empowering Belief: I am a victor, not a victim.

Supporting Bible Verse: No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. (Romans 8:37)

Limiting Belief: I can’t earn a living doing what I love.

Empowering Belief: God will meet all my needs.

Supporting Bible Verse: And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.(Philippians 4:19)

Limiting Belief: I don’t have time to pursue my goals.

Empowering Belief: I can set priorities and make the best use of time.

Supporting Bible Verse: Make good use of every opportunity you have, because these are evil days. (Ephesians 5:16))

Limiting Belief: I am too old.

Empowering Belief: I will bear fruit in old age.

Supporting Bible Verse: The righteous will flourish like palm trees; they will grow like the cedars of Lebanon. They are like trees planted in the house of the Lord, that flourish in the Temple of our God, that still bear fruit in old age and are always green and strong. (Psalm 92:12-14)

Limiting Belief: I can’t change, this is just the way I am.

Empowering Belief: I can change.

Supporting Bible Verse: I can do all this through him who gives me strength. (Philippians 4:13)

Limiting Belief: I don’t know what God wants me to do.

Empowering Belief: I will ask God and he will tell me.

Supporting Bible Verse: If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. (James 1:5)

Limiting Belief: I don’t know where to start.

Empowering Belief: I can learn by seeking wise counsel.

Supporting Bible Verse: Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed. Proverbs (15:22)

Limiting Belief: I am afraid of trying and failing.

Empowering Belief: I am not afraid because God is with me.

Supporting Bible Verse: The Lord is my helper; I will not fear; what can man do to me? (Hebrews 13:6)

5. Act.

But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. (James 1:22)

Having replaced the limiting belief with an empowering one, it is time to take action.

Ask yourself:

a. What action will I take?

b. When will I take action?

Example: I will improve my skills by taking an advanced software development course by October August 2, 2021. I will meet with my mentor by August 15, 2021. I will update my resume by September 1, 2021.I will apply for my dream position by October 1, 2021.

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20 Things to Remember When You Don’t Think You Are Good Enough

Vernon L Williams — Wed, 30 Jun 2021 17:06:15 +0000

When you are not experiencing success, you might be tempted to think you are not good enough. During those times it is important to remember that God says you are:

1. His workmanship.

For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. Ephesians 2:10 (NIV)

2. Fearfully and wonderfully made.

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:13-14 (NIV)

3. The apple of His eye.

Keep me as the apple of your eye; hide me in the shadow of your wings. Psalm 17:8 (NIV)

4. Great.

You make your saving help my shield, and your right hand sustains me; your help has made me great. Psalm 18:35 (NIV)

5. More than a conqueror.

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. Romans 8:37 (NIV)

6. The head and not the tail.

The Lord will make you the head, not the tail. If you pay attention to the commands of the Lord your God that I give you this day and carefully follow them, you will always be at the top, never at the bottom. Deuteronomy 28:13 (NIV)

7. The top and not the bottom.

8. Strengthened with all power.

Being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience. Colossians 1:11 (NIV)

9. and 10. Holy and blameless.

For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love. Ephesians 1:4 (NIV)

11. Set apart.

Know that the Lord has set apart his faithful servant for himself; the Lord hears when I call to him. Psalm 4:3 (NIV)

12. Valuable.

Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? Yet not one of them is forgotten by God. Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows. Luke 12:6-7 (NIV)

13. A friend of Jesus.

I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. John 15:15 (NIV)

14. Adopted into God’s family.

He predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will. Ephesians 1:5 (NIV)

15. His heir and co-heir with Jesus.

Now if we are children, then we are heirs—heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory. Romans 8:17 (NIV)

16. A citizen of heaven.

But our citizenship is in heaven. And we eagerly await a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ. Philippians 3:20 (NIV)

17. A child of light and not darkness.

You are all children of the light and children of the day. We do not belong to the night or to the darkness. 1 Thessalonians 5:5 (NIV)

18. The salt of the earth.

You are the salt of the earth. Matthew 5:13 (NIV)

19. The light of the world.

You are the light of the world. Matthew 5:14 (NIV)

20. A victor, not a victim.

But thanks be to God! He gives us victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. 1 Corinthians 15:57 (NIV)

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16 Biblical Truths to Replace the Lies You Tell Yourself

Vernon L Williams — Wed, 23 Jun 2021 12:16:36 +0000

Many of us tell ourselves lies. These lies can impact physical and mental health, decrease motivation and block success. Use these Biblical truths to replace the lies:

1. Lie: It’s impossible.

Truth: Jesus replied, “What is impossible with man is possible with God.” (Luke 18:27)

2. Lie: Nobody really loves me.

Truth: For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.(John 3:16)

3. Lie: My physical health is preventing me from doing what God wants me to do.

Truth: But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. (2 Corinthians 12:9)

4. Lie: I can’t do it.

Truth: I can do all things through him who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13)

5. Lie: God will not forgive my sins.

Truth: As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us. (Psalm 103:12)

6. Lie: God is never going to help me.

Truth: Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand. (Isaiah 41:10)

7. Lie: Nothing ever works for me.

Truth: And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. (Romans 8:28)

8. Lie: God has abandoned me.

Truth: Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5)

9. Lie: I can’t forgive myself.

Truth: Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. (Romans 8:1)

10. Lie: There’s nothing I can do about the situation.

Truth: Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up. (Luke 18:1)

11. Lie: It’s up to me to figure out how to fix the problem.

Truth: Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. (Proverbs 3:5-6)

12. Lie: Worrying is natural.

Truth: Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6-7)

13. Lie: I can’t help being afraid.

Truth: For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. (2 Timothy 1:7)

14. Lie: I don’t have the resources.

Truth: And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:19)

15. Lie: My work does not matter.

Truth: Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. (Colossians 3:23-24)

16. Lie: I’m not smart enough.

Truth: If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. (James 1:5)

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How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others And Live A Fulfilling Life

Vernon L Williams — Sat, 16 Jan 2021 21:27:50 +0000

Comparison is the thief of joy. -Theodore Roosevelt

Physical appearance, job title, vacation destinations, restaurants visited, number of Facebook likes – the number of categories in which we can compare ourselves to others in infinite. So is the number of people to whom we can compare ourselves.

One of the fastest ways of discouraging yourself and getting trapped by the sin of envy is when you compare yourself to others. God has a specific plan for you and you won’t accomplish that plan by looking at others.

These 5 simple will help you stop comparing yourself to others:

1. Recognize the impact of comparing yourself to others.

Comparing yourself to others has several negative effects:

a. It fuels feelings of envy, inferiority and resentment.

b. It leads to stress, anxiety, unhappiness and depression.

c. It wrecks friendships.

d. It robs you of precious time you could use to pursue your goals. You only get 86,400 second each day. Why waste even a portion of them comparing yourself to others?

e. It disregards your unique talents and the purpose for which God created you.

f. It disobeys God’s word – Each of you must examine your own actions. Then you can be proud of your own accomplishments without comparing yourself to others. Assume your own responsibility. (Galatians 6:4-5)

2. Practice contentment.

I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength. (Philippians 4:11-13)

This may mean taking a break from social media.

While social media can be a great source for inspiration, it can trigger feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt, and frustration.

As Steven Furtick said: “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.”

3. Develop an attitude of gratitude.

Oprah said, “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”

Whenever you find yourself looking at what other people have, remind yourself of what you’re grateful for. That may mean appreciating your family, your wonderful friends, and the fact that you’re living in a country in which you enjoy certain freedoms. In doing so, you shift your focus from what you don’t have, to what you do have.
Keep a gratitude journal. Take 5 minutes every evening before going to bed to write down 3 things for which you are grateful.

4. Focus on being the best version of yourself.

“Comparison with myself brings improvement, comparison with others brings discontent” — Betty Jamie Chung

Examine various areas of your life:

a. Health and fitness
b. Mind/emotions
c. Career
d. Family
e. Money/finances
f. Social/relationships
g. Spiritual

Assess how your life is going in each area. Rather than comparing yourself to others, compare yourself to where you were a year ago. Celebrate your progress. Set goals for where you would like to be a year from now.

This is an opportunity to gather ideas from others.

As Tony Robbins said, “If you want to be successful, find someone who has achieved the results you want and copy what they do and you’ll achieve the same results.

Instead of letting other people’s triumphs be a time to get down on yourself, use them as inspiration for what you can be, do and have in life.

Arrange a conversation with someone who has achieved what you are seeking to achieve.

5. Avoid “shoulding”.

Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 3:13-14)

Comparison often leads us to practice “shoulding”. We say things such as, “I should be married by now” “I should have more money saved for my retirement” or “I should be further along in my career.” These statements keep you focused on the past. As Paul said, you focus on the future and press forward. After all, there is nothing you can do about the past. But statements like that just keep us focused on what we’re lacking.
Instead of using “should” when expressing commitments, use “starting now I will…..” . Follow this up with a goal and action steps spelling out specifically what you will do and when you will do it.

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